Hey guys,

As you can tell from the title this post is going to be about Pride. This weekend celebrates Newcastle Pride’s 10th Birthday and 16,000 people turned up to march through central Newcastle before retiring to Town Moor park for music, fun and drinks. I went along yesterday with my work family. It was my first ever Pride event and I had a great time.

I came out as bi earlier this year and since then the LGBT scene and the need to raise awareness and fight for equal rights amongst other things has become even more important to me and thus I was excited to be attending my first Pride event with my boys from work. It was amazing seeing such a mixed bunch of people of all ages turn up to march. Standing together there was such a feeling of solidarity and acceptance. Everyone felt comfortable just being themselves, no fear of judgement. It was lovely seeing the support from onlookers too, some who weren’t physically able to participate in the march stood at the sidelines and waved flags, others held up supportive signs as we marched past or waved and cheered. Although the weather was miserable, the atmosphere was great and the drizzly murkiness did not dampen anyone’s moods or spirits.

After the march we arrived at Town Moore, got our VIP wristbands and settled down at a table with a view of the stage. At one point we were huddled under our umbrellas which was a shame, but the music acts were good, the drinks and talk flowed and when the sun finally came out the smiles turned into grins and we danced away. Before we left the park the guys also went on some rides and tried to get me on some too although I was not to be persuaded as my stomach wasn’t feeling too great and I’m quite honestly surprised non of them threw up aha!

Town was packed when we walked back but we grabbed a quick bite to eat and went for a short boogie before getting the last train back to Durham feeling absolutely exhausted, I mean no wonder we had been out for 11 hours.

Me, Ryan and Aiden, Bradley ❤ 

I really enjoyed my first pride event, although I do think it would be nice if there was also more awareness raising after the march, in the sense of more talks about current LGBT situations around the world, how far we’ve come but also how much still needs to change… I know there were a few video clips, but sadly the sound was too quiet for me to actually understand anything.

To end with a bit of food for thought; it is great seeing how much progress we have made across the world, but as one of speakers said whilst having fun today we should also think of those less fortunate than us. I feel like I take LGBT acceptance for granted here in England, there’s a certain detachment from the problems people in other countries might be experiencing, but then I just need to look across the sea to Northern Ireland where same sex marriage isn’t legal yet, to be reminded that injustice is’t far around the corner. So with Theresa May in bed with the DUP and Trump running around America who knows what the next few years hold for the LGBT community! I hope it will be an ever growing forward moving motion and that we will not be taking any steps backwards.

Lots of Love for you guys!

Carina xo


Hey guys,

It’s a very important day today!


“The ultimate test of man’s conscience may be his willingness to sacrifice something today for future generations whose words of thanks will not be heard.” ― Gaylord Nelson

“It’s going to take all of us, gathering our voices and acting together. Saying,”Not on our watch” to create a future for humans, animals and the environment.” ― Eileen Anglin

I am slowly becoming a little bit of an Eco warrior, don’t get me wrong I don’t nearly do enough, but it’s a ‘I don’t nearly do enough yet’. I am working on it, slowly making small changes and that’s all I’d like to ask of everyone too! If we all work together to change small habits we can make big changes!

Our societies are currently living such unsustainable lives. We are hurting our earth, its inhabitants and our ecosystem – something needs to change!!! Let’s all start making some little changes – every little helps and it’s important we all play our part and look after the earth!!!

I will be writing more detailed posts in the future about the changes I have been making to do my part to help the environment! So keep your eyes peeled!

Love Carina xo


“Imagine you’re at a party. A guy offers you a drink. You say no. He says ‘Come on, one drink!’ You say ‘no thanks.’ Later, he brings you a soda. ‘I know you said you didn’t want a drink, but I was getting one for myself and you looked thirsty.’ For you to refuse at this point makes you the asshole. He’s just being nice, right? Predators use the social contract and our own good hearts and fear of being rude against us. If you drink the drink, you’re teaching him that it just takes a little persistence on his part to overcome your ‘no.’ If you say ‘Really, I appreciate it, but no thanks’ and put the drink down and walk away from it, you’re the one who looks rude in that moment. But the fact is, you didn’t ask for the drink and you don’t want the drink and you don’t have to drink it just to make some guy feel validated.” —The Art of “No,” JenniferP


Hello my beautiful friends, 

I saw this online and I think it is a very true and important lesson we all have to learn. This applies for me in so many situations, I am terrible at saying NO to people, because I either a. don’t want to offend b. be perceived as rude or c. giving in is just the easier option instead of having to keep fighting for your NO until it gets awkward.

Like Jennifer says, often it is something we didn’t ask for, we don’t want it so why feel obliged to accept it?! Giving in eventually does not teach people to respect your decisions but gives the impression you’re easy and that they just need to be pushy for a bit and they’ll get their own way. Saying NO and being true to what I feel and want is something I need to work on, even with friends. If they are good friends they should understand if you don’t want to do something or go somewhere for example and you should not feel bad about perhaps letting them down or offending them. In the end it is your life and you should be doing what makes you feel best.

I’d like to think that in certain situations I am a leader, but actually mostly, especially in social situations I am a follower and I don’t want to seem needy or bossy by fighting for what I want, so I just come across blasé and follow others decisions.

I find it strange how the notion of offending someone is so hard wired as unacceptable into many peoples brains, to the extent that they ignore their own hearts, instincts and thoughts of what is right, just to follow that unwritten rule. I was just watching A Girl With A Dragon Tattoo the other day, and at the end Martin Vanger the bad guy says something along the lines of: ‘It is strange how strong the fear of offending someone is. You knew there was something not right, but you came in regardless when I invited you in. I didn’t force you to come, you ignored your instincts because you didn’t want to offend and willingly came in.’ So again, even in a situation of danger, the fear offending was stronger than the instinct to run.

So it is important to learn to speak for yourself and stick to your guns, learning to say NO and being selfish sometimes is something we should all give some thought to! Let me know your thoughts on the subject!

Love Carina xo



“The trouble is that, for women, being “nice” often translates into putting up with things we should never put up with. How many times has some creep sat uncomfortably close to me on the bus and stared me down, yet I’m too afraid to just get up and move, lest I offend him?

We smile when we’re harassed on the street or hit on by jerks. We laugh at sexist jokes. We learn that when we have strong opinions, we’ll be called bitches and that if we get angry, we’ll be called hysterical. When we say what we want, we’re called pushy or aggressive.

Part of learning “ladylike” behavior is about learning to smile politely when someone is being crude. Femininity has long been attached to passivity and to being docile. Men fight, women giggle and fume silently.”

– Women And Girls Don’t Need To Be Told To Be Nicer, Meghan Murphy for xoJane


Hey my lovelies,

So when I spotted this quote on Artparasites on Facebook, it hit a chord. I could totally relate to the first paragraph, having been in the same position of not wanting to move on a bus for fear of judgement. We are in the 21st century, why on earth does society still have such a hold on our behaviour?! It saddens me that I don’t have to courage to just be myself and not give a shit of what society thinks of me! And I know I’m far from the only one who suffers from feeling pressured into society dictated gender roles/behaviour, and I am not just talking women here but men too. It is something I want to work on, learning to ignore opinions of people I don’t even know, and flourishing within myself instead! One of my  sincerest wishes would be for societal pressures to not exist, but sadly the Miller Effect (watch the movie We’re the Millers) will not fade out of fashion; I think it is part of our human nature to compare and want to fit in, survival of the fittest and all. It’s not just about possessions but behaviour and roles in society too. Anyway it’s some food for thought! I’d love to hear your opinions on the subject!

Love Carina xo